Humility is good... because it sees truth regardless of apprehension.
Pride is bad... because it ignores the fact that you are God/god-thingy.
When we move away from pride there are consequences for being dependent on it in the first place, but these consequences will be face-able because it becomes apparent that fear (like anger) is rooted in pride... and all the while love will be inspiring practicality toward happiness.
However stubborn one would wish to be there is no trauma that cannot be seen objectively... and calmness is bigger than any confusion.
Define your environment. Discern for yourself whether or not happiness is real. Then you'll have something to work with.