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Myths and Monsters in the Media

A truly progressive movement of any kind requires that we question traditional myths and false stereotypes regarding any group of people. When it comes to boy-lovers and pedophiles we have been lacking both in our examination of the belief that "any" sex with children is harmful and abusive, and neglagent in blindly accepting the medias definition of what it means to be a boy-lover or pedophile.
Myths and Monsters in the Media

When any group of people are vilified based on false beliefs, and a disregard for the facts, that group needs the support of the progressive community.

Support does not mean giving agreement to the belief that it's OK for men and boys to be sexual. It does mean giving a thoughtful look at the negative stereotypes and false beliefs associated with adults who are attracted to children. It also means looking beyond the sex negative Christian mentality which regards "any" adult/child sexual contact as the worst of all sins, and spiritually damaging. When it comes to sex and children we're still in the dark ages. It's time the progressive community turned on the lights.

The article, "We Still Believe in Monsters," by Mark Distefano, is a well documented look at the various myths and false beliefs the media has promoted about pedophiles since the early 1940's. One of these myths is that pedophiles are attracted to teenagers or children because of the power differential.

The article clearly points out that most pedophiles discover they're attracted to children during puberty, and power over another human being has nothing to do with their feelings of love and affection for children.

There are two paragraphs in the article that I find exceptional in there perception, and demand that we view others including those whose love and affection is focused on children, as full human beings deserving of our respect.

The paragraphs I refer to are as follows:


"One final consequence of Newsweek-style reporting [involves something almost no one thinks about. Begley correctly wrote that pedophilia begins in adolescence. This should not be surprising, since for people in general, romantic and sexual feelings typically begin in puberty. Imagine an adolescent boy who has come to realize that through no choice of his own, he is attracted to prepubescent children. He hears that pedophilia is a sickness. But he knows that society doesn't really believe that. After all, a decent society does not treat illness by promoting fear and hatred toward the patient, and wishing death upon him.


The boy reads in Newsweek that he is worse than a brutal war criminal, with a mind "beyond decent imagination." He reads the reporter's sympathetic description of a priest who publicly states his desire to gun him down. He must be a monster. He seems to have two choices: to live up to society's expectations, or to kill himself. He knows that even (or maybe especially) police and child care workers would celebrate if he did the latter."

The article by Mark Distefano is well documented, and makes it clear that the progressive movement can no longer turn a blind eye to false stereotypes, media hype and our cultures continued support the medieval Christian condemnation and hatred of any sex outside of marriage.

The article is in four parts and raises a host of thought provoking questions.





I challenge people to read the article and than post what aspect of the article was most meaningful to them.

homepage: homepage: http://www.christianbl.org/paraklesis/vol2iss2/page5.html

My thoughts. 22.Jul.2002 19:29


Well, I'm not sure what to make of this post. I'm guessing it is supposed to raise awareness that not all sex pedo's are violent and harmful.

Okay, but I'm sure that I do understand that most older people are more socially adept and emotionally deeper than children. A child's or teenager's view and understanding of situations are different and less developed. The will and persuasiveness of someone more experienced goes unnoticed by the "victim".

Love and lust are different things. I do not support uncarrying. I support compassion. Do I think it's a sickness? I think that's a cop-out. I may have a cold, but I could still go to work if I wanted to, it's just harder. If you are controlled by your attachment and lust, I'm sure you need more guidence. Should you be punished, ridiculed, isolated. Depends on if you wish to follow the laws of the society you live in.

Social customs change with time and geography. In the middle ages, in some parts of Europe, it was acceptable for men to have teenage lovers. Well, so what. Do you base the majority of your life on sex?

What about the life of the child? They will be critized, laughed at, hurt in more ways than one. If you really love the child, you should not continue a relationship, because you are stunting their own emotional growth. And will cause them pain in the end. Stop being selfish. Control the urge, move past the primal insticts, transcend sexuality.

Children Always Suffer 22.Jul.2002 21:54

Trey Smith vote4pgp@wvi.com

As a former child abuse investigator in both Arkansas & Missouri, I can state that I have never worked a case in which a prepubescent child was better off after having sex with an adult. It always messes them up -- some, I fear, for life.

While I don't believe we need to necessarily demonize pedophiles, when they commit these types of unhealthy acts, we do need to lock them up. I have seen no reliable data indicating a way to help them a) curb their appetites or b) control their impulses.

That may sound harsh, but until we can develop a way to help them heal themselves, we owe it to the children of our society to provide a safe world for them to live in.

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